Bally, Mafi Cha De -The Art of Living Together

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‘Bally! Māfī Chā De’ -The Art of Living Together

Two real brothers in their 80s sitting shoulder to shoulder while eating on the same cot

Two Sikh brothers in their mid-eighties sit on the same cot, sharing a simple meal and warm conversation. One can only imagine how many times, perhaps a hundred thousand, they must have forgotten and forgiven each other over a lifetime. Yet here they are, peaceful and content, enjoying each other’s company.

This simple scene reminds us of a profound truth: relationships survive not because people are perfect, but because they choose to forgive.

My grandmother Sdn Karam Devi Bhabhi ji with my Dad S Vasdev Singh and my mother Sdn Savitri Devi with sister Bhagwant in her lap  - 1946 Karachi

It takes me back to my grandmother Bhabhi ji in her Multani tone, who would gently remind us during moments of conflict:

“O my Sweet heart! Have mercy and please forgive him/her - Bally, Māfī chā de.”

At the time, her words felt unreasonable, especially when emotions were high. But once anger settled, forgiveness came easily, and the heart felt lighter.

Life demands tolerance, especially in close relationships, most of all between husband and wife. In today’s fast-paced world, we are so busy that we forget how to forgive.

Forgiveness is not weakness; it is wisdom.

Forgetting is not loss; it is freedom.

Have mercy. Forgive. ‘Bally! Māfī chā de’

Encouraging English Outreach Program in Badbar

​It is encouraging and credible to see that students are still keenly interested in enhancing their language skills, even though this places an additional burden on top of their regular academic workload. Moreover, in villages, many children are also expected to contribute to household responsibilities to help their families make ends meet.

I sincerely appreciate the efforts of parents who truly understand the value of educating the next generation and who continue to support their children despite these challenges.

My comments would be incomplete if I did not place on record my heartfelt thanks to the teaching team, headed by Shikha ji, for their dedicated guidance and leadership of the expert team comprising Garima ji. Their commitment and efforts are truly commendable.

If possible, I would welcome the opportunity to share these sentiments over a cup of tea by inviting all parents and listening to their valuable feedback.

DhunAnand serves Snacks to Parbhat Pheri in Punjab

Local GTV channel covering the Parbhat Pheri in the early morning

​Prabhat Pheri, literally meaning “dawn rounds” or “morning procession,” is a cherished Sikh tradition of early-morning devotional walks held before sunrise. Groups of devotees, starting from a Gurdwara, move through neighborhoods singing shabads and chanting praises of Waheguru, spreading spiritual energy, positivity, and unity. Prabhat Pheris are especially organized to mark Gurpurabs and other Sikh festivals, with the belief that these sacred hymns purify the surroundings and deepen the community’s connection with the Divine.

GTV coverage encouraging youths and nextzen

Traditionally, this practice was largely limited to urban areas. However, about a decade ago, the tradition was meaningfully introduced in District Moga, Punjab, bringing this spiritual experience to rural communities as well.

Bhai Swarjit Singh introducing DhunAnand spirit of Sewa

Swarjit Singh ji helping day and ight.

On this occasion, Bhai Swarjit Singh of the DhunAnand Foundation actively participated in the Prabhat Pheri and also arranged hot tea and snacks for the Sangat. Bhai Swarjit Singh also performs Kirtan at Sri Harmandir Sahib, Amritsar. This thoughtful gesture was warmly appreciated by the participants and reflected the Foundation’s spirit of seva (selfless service) and community care.