Gobind and Bohan
Gobind is finally back after completing his four years of graduation, earning degrees in both Mathematics and Computer Science from the University of California, Davis. Both of these subjects are quite heavy-loaded, and he had been so busy that he often avoided coming home to visit us. So, we decided instead to visit him at his apartment, where he was living with two of his fellow students.
Kids enjoying summer fun with party all the times.
Now, there’s a joyful atmosphere all around our house. Jania has also returned home after finishing her freshman year program, and Geet is on summer vacation too. The house is full of chatter, laughter, and lively commotion. The kids sleep late—sometimes till noon—before finally waking up and heading straight for lunch. The house feels full again, and I savor these moments.
Gobind and Bohan family pic.
We were also informed that Gobind’s close friend, Bohan—a Chinese international student—would be visiting him at our house along with his family. Bohan’s parents had traveled all the way from China to meet him after four long years—the entire duration of his studies in the U.S. Since they were allowed only one child due to China’s one-child policy, Bohan, being their only son, is especially precious to them.
Bohan’s Dad Ted and Shiv introducing each other.
Bohan translating and softly telling what is conversing here?
When they arrived, instead of taking them to the formal living room, we led them to our cozy family room.
Enjoying home made Indian food.
Both his parents looked like a smart, gentle, middle-aged couple. We soon learned that Bohan’s father Ted spoke English quite well, as he worked for a garment company that dealt with European countries.
Two moms glittering with happiness without exchange of even a single word.
His mother, though she couldn’t speak English, radiated happiness and warmth at meeting her son’s best friend’s family. Whenever we conversed, Bohan softly translated into his mother’s ear so she wouldn’t feel left out.
Gobind helping Bohan’s Mom with an Indian serving.
As they settled in, I decided to make a small effort to connect. Smiling, I greeted them with a simple “Nǐ hǎo!” — Hello in Mandarin. Bohan mother’s face instantly lit up with joy and surprise. She seemed truly impressed and touched. My quick crash course from YouTube had paid off! It was a small gesture, but it brought warmth into the room immediately.
A beautiful packaged gift for Gobind
Then, to our pleasant surprise, both of Bohan’s parents presented precious gifts for our family.
Outcomes beautiful handwritten Buddhist sacred sermons wall hanging.
Bohan explaining how diligently his mother had written Buddhist sacred sermons for Gobind
Gobind and Shiv are thrilled to learn the sacred Buddhist sermons.
For Gobind, his mother had personally written Blessings of Buddha in her beautiful handwriting, carefully wrapped in elegant packaging — a heartfelt keepsake.
Bohan unwraps a beautiful traditional red colored silken scarf specially brought by his Mom for Shilpy.
Bohan unfolds to show the scarf.
For Shilpy, she gifted a graceful silken scarf, and for Shiv, a thoughtful herbal decorative piece meant to help with allergies.
The herbal collections in small parcels for Shiv.
Bohan’s parents trying to explain how these special herbs help you to fight allergies.
Shiv is carefully packing it back to the delight of Bohan’s Mom.
Their kindness and thoughtfulness deeply touched us.
For lunch, we served homemade Indian food, lovingly prepared by Harvinder. She demonstrated how to eat the Indian way with fingers, which fascinated our guests. At first, they took tiny portions, but soon they were asking for more chapatis — a small but lovely compliment to Harvinder’s cooking.
Bohan is destined to join Massachusetts Institute of Technology this fall for pursuing his PhD.
During lunch, I had a light-hearted conversation with Bohan. I mentioned that now, since he had already secured admission to MIT for his PhD program in Machine Learning, things were beautifully falling into place. Bohan had chosen MIT, Boston, partly because Gobind would also be moving there for his new job — where he had interned last year.
Bohan, Gobind and other celebrated awardees mingling with each other after the Award ceremony of Department of Mathematics, UC, Davis.
Then, with a smile, I couldn’t resist teasing him. I asked, “In all these four years, Bohan, you never found yourself a nice girl?” Bohan chuckled and replied, “I have been so busy with my studies; I didn’t have time to get involved with any girls.” I laughed and told him that was exactly what Gobind had said to me too. Perhaps that’s one reason they have grown so close — both focused, disciplined, and sharing similar values.
Gobind cutting a joke with Dada ji.
I am glad that Gobind had followed the advice I once gave him: In school or college, your first priority should be to make friends with someone who excels in studies, who is a topper. Stay close to them, and their good habits will reflect on you. Whether he consciously followed it or not, I see how beautifully it has worked. Both Gobind and Bohan are not only brilliant academically but have become sincere, loyal friends.
Visit to Winery in Livermore was freshening.
Later that day, Gobind took Bohan and his parents for a short tour — visiting a nearby winery and the San Francisco Primary Outlets. The day was capped off with a gala Indian dinner — sumptuous and filling — with everyone enjoying the warmth of good food, laughter, and newfound friendships across cultures.
San Francisco Premier Outlets for high end exclusive brands during Christmas.
As I reflected on the day, my heart was full. How small gestures, thoughtful gifts, and genuine friendships can build bridges across countries and cultures! With these comforting thoughts, I quietly said to myself: Bye, for now.
