Thursday, September 3, 2026

Memories That Keep Me Engaged

“Your vivid memories of Kathmandu and nearby places connected with the birth and childhood of Shiv are remarkable.

Best wishes and regards

Harbhajan Singh Shan”

Thank you for your above kind words about my memories of Kathmandu and the places connected with Shiv’s birth and early days.

I am always trying to keep myself meaningfully occupied. Instead of indulging in other people’s affairs, I prefer to look inward to think, remember, reflect, and write about my own life and experiences. It takes a surprising amount of time, but that is perhaps the beauty of it. My memories keep me engaged, and writing gives them a more permanent life.

Above all, I feel fortunate to have the encouragement of brilliant and accomplished friends like you. Your appreciation and ideas make this journey even more enjoyable, and I am proud to have you with me.

Best wishes and warm regards,


Wednesday, September 2, 2026

The Place Where Shiv was born

Returning to Shiv’s Birthplace After 45 Years

In 2019, as Shiv reached his 45th year, Harvinder and I decided to revisit Kathmandu and Lalitpur—the place where he was born and where some of the most precious memories of our young family began.


Shiv just 9 days in Hospital

Shiv was born at Shanta Bhawan Hospital, Sanepa, Lalitpur, on the night of March 10, 1975, when Mahashivratri was being celebrated. The hospital had been established in 1954 by the United Mission to Nepal, with pioneering missionary doctors such as Dr. Bethel Fleming. It operated from a rented old Rana palace called Shanta Bhawan, named after its owner, Shanta Shumsher JB Rana, son of former Prime Minister Juddha Shumsher JB Rana.

Newly renovated Gurdwara Sahib at Patan. A Gurus Rumala after Ardaas at this Gurdwara was brought and Nani Ma then wrapped the first worldly cloth around Shiv. 


In those days, Shanta Bhawan was one of the highly regarded hospitals in the Kathmandu Valley, with an international team of doctors and patients that included members of the royal family, diplomats and senior officials. Harvinder had a particularly difficult pregnancy and was under the care of Dr. Eldridge, a gynecologist who had been transferred there from Christian Medical College, Ludhiana.

I was then working on the Trishuli hydroelectric project, about 70 miles from Kathmandu. Because of the difficult pregnancy and Shiv’s birth, I took 59 days of leave to remain with Harvinder, while her parents also came and stayed in Kathmandu to support us.

Shiv in my lap to the delight of Harvinder

Nine days after Shiv was born, I went to Patan town nearby and persuaded a professional photographer to come to Shanta Bhawan Hospital. He photographed me holding our newborn Shiv, with Harvinder beside her. That photograph became a treasured historical record of the beginning of our little family.


Shiv 30 days at ‘Photo Concern’ New Road Kathmandu

When Shiv was about a month old, we returned for his pediatric check-up. It was mid-April and becoming warm. We then went to a well-known photography ‘Photo Concern’ studio on New Road for another professional family portrait. 

A close up of the ‘Photo Concern’ Studio.

Afterwards, we stopped at a small restaurant nearby and ordered a Coca-Cola. Little Shiv tasted Coke for the first time through a straw. He became so excited, kicking his tiny legs and wanting more, that we finally gave him almost a spoonful. It was a tiny incident, yet somehow it remained fresh in my memory for the next 45 years.

Corner street side restaurant where Shiv had his first taste of Coke.


When Harvinder and I returned in 2019, I suddenly spotted that old photography shop on New Road.

“This is the shop where we brought Shiv for his photograph,” I told her.


Iconic photo of 30-day Shiv among his delighted parents.


She was not quite sure, so we went inside. The young man there confirmed that the establishment was indeed around 70 years old. Naturally, the people running it had changed, but the old photography business had survived. I was thrilled to find this little landmark of our family history still standing and photographed it for our records.

Newly transformed Shanta Bhawan Heritage building now.

Shanta Bhawan itself had changed completely. In 1982, the hospital merged with Lalitpur District Hospital and moved to a much larger facility at Lagankhel, becoming Patan Hospital. The original Rana palace that housed Shanta Bhawan no longer exists. 

Another view of new Shanta Bhawan where Harvinder is trying to look for a room in old place where Shiv was born.

Over the decades, the old site has passed through different uses, and today the surrounding area contains modern medical, commercial and event facilities. Yet the neighborhood is still widely remembered by the old name Shanta Bhawan.

Our return after 45 years was therefore much more than sightseeing. We had come back as grandparents to the places where, in 1975, we had walked as young parents carrying our newborn son. The palace hospital had disappeared, the city had transformed, but remarkably the little photography shop was still there and our old photographs continued to preserve those precious days.

Places change, buildings disappear and generations move forward, but photographs and memories have a wonderful way of defeating time.


Love letter to my Grand kids

Hi kiddos,

Since now we all are grown up and understand and communicate with each other in a more healthy way.

In Cabos Aug 2026


We are a small family of seven, and we have worked hard to remain a closely knit family. This spirit has successfully carried us through the last three generations, and our earlier family history also shows the strength of staying connected.

We certainly do not expect your generation to follow exactly the same methods. Times and lifestyles have changed, and the modus operandi can and should change with the present environment. But the basic spirit, remaining connected, caring for one another, and enjoying life as one family, should continue.

I would therefore like to discuss on our next get-together with the next generation and suggest how you feel this bonding can best be maintained in your own natural way. We elders will be happy to understand, support, and merge into whatever works comfortably for your generation.

Love and blessings,
Dada


A Childhood Promise at Sis Ganj Sahib Gurdwara, Delhi

A Childhood Promise at Sis Ganj Sahib

Sis Ganj Sahib in early days 


More than seventy years ago, as a small boy, I regularly visited Gurdwara Sis Ganj Sahib with my father whenever we travelled from Panipat to Delhi.

Dad and me


One day, Papa explained to me the supreme sacrifice of Guru Tegh Bahadur Sahib at that very place. Deeply moved, I looked at Guru Sahib’s Bani engraved high around the marble walls and asked, “Why isn’t this written in gold?”

Papa replied, “That would cost a great deal of money.”

With the innocence and conviction of a child, I immediately said, “Then sell my part of half  land. I will have Guru Sahib’s words written in gold.”

Papa sharply stopped me: “Never say that. We are too poor for such things.”

Harvinder and me on the morning of May 7, 2026, before departing for Badbar for Demarcation mission of our farm lands and prayed for the success.


The conversation ended, but the thought never left me. Looking back after more than seventy years, I realize that the gold was not important. What mattered was the feeling born that day—the desire to dedicate whatever life gave me toward spirituality, service and the welfare of those in need.

Jo

Supporting as DunAnand Ambassador of  Oneness.


Today, I feel blessed to see that same spirit being carried forward by our son, Shiv. Through DhunAnand Foundation, established in both India and the USA, he is living that idea of sewa, using his resources and efforts for spirituality, service and the welfare of those who need support.

Perhaps the small seed of sewa planted in me that day at Sis Ganj Sahib has found another life in the next generation.


Monday, August 31, 2026

Grandpa talks to Geet on her Mehndi Design

Grandpa Talks to Geet About Her First Mehndi

Grandpa: Geet, tell me about your mehndi. How did you come up with these two designs?

Geet: Well, for this side, I saw a picture on Pinterest that I thought was really cool. I started with that and then just added a lot of my own designs to it.

Grandpa: And you had never done mehndi on yourself before?

Geet: No! This was actually my first time.

Grandpa: Really? Then how long did it take you?

Geet: Oh, a long time! Maybe three or four hours.


Grandpa: Three or four hours! And what about the other hand, the one with the star-glove design?

Geet: For that one, I remembered a little trick I had learned a few years ago. I used it with the mehndi and then added some lace-type designs around it.

Grandpa: How long did that one take?

Geet: Maybe two or three hours.

Grandpa: Ah, so by the second hand you had already become faster!

Geet: Well… not exactly! It was faster because it was on the back of my hand, which is easier. And the design was simpler.

Grandpa: There must have been another reason. You were in a hurry, weren’t you?


Geet: Yes! I was going to my friend’s house, so I had a lot of motivation to finish quickly!

Grandpa: Now the truth comes out! And did your friends like your mehndi?

Geet: Yeah! They liked it when I shared the pictures.

Grandpa: And I heard you weren’t finished with mehndi even after spending all those hours on your own hands.

Geet: No! My friend Tanvi wanted me to do hers too. That’s actually why I wanted to get to her house. So I did a little doodle design on her hand.

Grandpa: Very good! Did you show all this artwork to your teacher?

Geet: No!

Grandpa: Why not?

Geet: Grandpa! It was just mehndi!

Grandpa: Just mehndi? For your first attempt, you patiently sat for hours, copied an idea you liked, changed it with your own imagination, remembered an old trick, created another design and then went and did mehndi for your friend too!

Geet: Okay, Grandpa! 😄

Grandpa: That is how an artist begins, Geet. First you see something beautiful, then you try it yourself, and eventually you start creating something that is completely your own.

One day, when you are much older, you may see these pictures again and smile: “That was the first time I ever did my own mehndi.”

And Grandpa will proudly remember it too.


Sunday, August 30, 2026

Gobind takes a Strong Step Forward

Gobind Takes a Strong Step Forward


It is a moment of great pride and joy for me to see our bright Gobind taking another important step forward in his life.

Gobind had been accepted by Georgia Tech, one of the leading universities, for higher studies in Computer Science with an emphasis on Artificial Intelligence, and he has now started his classes. While already doing very well in his first job, he has chosen to continue his education alongside his professional career.

It may seem like a small step in a young man’s long journey, but for me it is a significant milestone. He is making good use of his time, energy, and abilities to broaden his knowledge and strengthen his future career prospects.

At this stage of my life, it gives me immense satisfaction and pride to watch Gobind move ahead with confidence and purpose.

I wish him every success in balancing his work and higher studies. May Babaji always bless and guide him, give him wisdom and courage, and inspire him to keep taking bold steps as he faces the opportunities and challenges of life.

God bless you, Gobind. Keep learning, growing, and moving forward.


Thursday, August 27, 2026

Trishuli, Nepal: A catastrophe in a Land of My Memories

The Bridge we crossed hundreds of times to reach our colony is absolutely swept away.

The recent catastrophic flash floods in Nepal’s Trishuli River have deeply saddened me. For others, the images show a terrible natural disaster; for me, they show the destruction of a landscape intimately connected with an important chapter of my professional and family life.

I worked at the Trishuli Hydel Project for nearly two years, from around mid-1973 until March–April 1975, as a young engineer. Trishuli was about 70 kilometres from Kathmandu, and reaching it through the young and fragile Himalayan hills was an experience in itself.


The Trishuli Bazar shown being swept away by the flash floods.

At the entrance to Trishuli Bazaar stood the familiar bridge that we crossed while coming from Kathmandu. Just across it was the bus stop for buses travelling between Trishuli and Kathmandu. From there, we passed through the bazaar and followed a winding road for a couple of miles uphill to our project colony, safely located on higher, relatively flat ground.

The colony was a little world of its own, with residences, offices, workshops, a guest house and a club. Many Indian engineers, technicians and skilled workers had been deployed there as part of India’s assistance in developing Nepal’s hydropower system.


At the construction site in 1974.


My engineering work was particularly associated with the enormous quantities of silt carried by the Trishuli River. The balancing reservoir had become heavily silted, and the water had to pass through desilting arrangements before being fed through the system and penstocks to the powerhouse downstream. I was closely associated with this work.


The Barage where we had picnics in the evening times.


Today, much of what we knew has been devastated. The flash floods have swept away the familiar bridge and severely damaged or destroyed the 60–70-year-old barrage and the desilting works on which we had worked. Downstream, the old powerhouse has also been badly affected, while another hydropower project about ten miles farther downstream has reportedly suffered major destruction.


The powerhouse building.

Even more tragic is the human loss and the destruction of homes and livelihoods. Trishuli Bazaar has changed enormously since our days. Then, there were mostly modest kachcha structures. With electricity and development, multi-storeyed buildings gradually sprang up along the river. To now see so much of that development devastated by the raging waters is heartbreaking.


I cannot forget this site view of Trishuli Project when we must have passed tens of times.

Life in these young Himalayan mountains was never easy, particularly during the four months of monsoon. Heavy rains brought enormous silt, landslides and frequent road closures. Sometimes the Kathmandu–Trishuli road became so badly blocked that two jeeps had to operate from opposite sides. We would travel in one jeep up to the landslide, cross the broken stretch on foot, and board another jeep waiting on the other side to complete our journey.


As young parents me and Harvinder with 30 days old Shiv.

My memories of Nepal, however, go far beyond engineering. These were also very important years of our young married life. Harvinder had a difficult pregnancy while I was posted at Trishuli. Since proper medical facilities were unavailable at the remote project, we moved to Kathmandu for the delivery. I took nearly two months of leave to remain with her through that difficult period, and there, in Kathmandu, our handsome son Shiv was born.

Harvinder before Shiv was born in Balaju coronial gardens.


That event gave Nepal and Trishuli a permanent place in our family history.

There was also a project worker Kamal Bahadur who became very close to us and helped take care of little Shiv, almost like his nanny. When I returned to Delhi, I brought him with us and later helped him obtain a government job in office canteen. He eventually retired with a good pension. I also filled out his application for a DDA flat; fortunately, he received an allotment and subsequently developed a multi-storeyed home in Rohini, where he lives comfortably today.


Kamal Bahadur Adhikari.

After hearing about this disaster, I called Kamal Bahadur again today to learn more about the damage and, above all, to ask about his family in his native area. It was a great relief to know that they are safe.

More than fifty years have passed, yet I can still clearly visualize the bridge, the bus stop, Trishuli Bazaar, the barrage and desilting works, the powerhouse, the winding road to our colony, our offices and workshops, and the community of engineers and workers with whom we shared those years.

Nature has altered much of that familiar landscape within a matter of hours.

My heart goes out to all those who have lost family members, homes, businesses and livelihoods. Rebuilding in this difficult Himalayan terrain will itself be an enormous challenge.

As one grows older, one realizes that places become part of our lives just as people do. A bridge is no longer merely concrete and steel when you have crossed it hundreds of times. A powerhouse is more than machinery when you have worked around it. And a colony is more than a collection of buildings when it was once your home.

For me, Trishuli will therefore never be merely a place on the map of Nepal. It remains the land where I worked as a young engineer, where Harvinder and I spent an unforgettable period of our early married life, and where, nearby in Kathmandu, we welcomed our son Shiv into the world.


Today, I remember Trishuli with affection, gratitude and profound sadness, and pray for the people of this beautiful Himalayan valley as they rebuild their lives.