Sunday, February 15, 2026

When we sit together, Our parents live again



Cousins get together

This message is for all those whose beloved parents have passed on.


I urge you,  call your brothers and sisters, sit together, and talk about them. As you share memories, you will begin to see your mother’s smiling face again and hear your father’s familiar voice.


Remember your mother: how she woke early, dressed you for school, carefully combed your hair, and prepared your clothes for festivals and weddings. She cooked for you every day without complaint and filled celebrations with laughter, jokes, and warmth. Her love was in every small act.


Remember your father: how he guided you in your schoolwork, corrected your lessons, and encouraged you to do better. How he helped buy your clothes and shoes, often putting your needs before his own. How he accompanied you to the theatre, festivals, and gatherings, standing beside you with quiet pride. His love was steady, protective, and strong.


When siblings sit together and remember such moments, something sacred happens. Differences fade. Trifles lose meaning. You are once again children of the same mother and father.


Do not let small misunderstandings keep you apart. In coming together, you honor their lives and keep their presence alive within you.


Saturday, February 14, 2026

My Nana ji L Kanwar Bhan



My grandfather, Lala Kanwar Bhan, was born in 1874 to Jawahar Lal in Multan, British India. He belonged to that rare generation of men who carried courage in their hearts and discipline in their blood. A proud veteran of the British Indian Army, he served with distinction in both World War I and World War II, fighting in Europe as well as in Asia.


It is said that when he returned from the wars, he brought back a full bag of gold coins, a reward for his service and valor and thus became a prosperous man after retirement. Those very coins remain in our family even today. With characteristic fairness and affection, he distributed one coin to each of his daughters and gave the rest to his sons. That gold was not merely wealthy; it was history in the palm of his hand.


Beyond his military achievements, Nanaji was a man of culture and devotion. He was a gifted singer of Gurbani and a regular at the local Gurdwara. Every morning, before dawn, he would go for “Asa Di Vaar” and return by seven. On his way back, he would always stop at my mother’s home. She was his youngest daughter, married at the tender age of fifteen, and he held a special affection for her.


He was also musically inclined and played the harmonium beautifully. He once purchased a fine German harmonium especially for my mother, Savitri Devi. She became adept at playing the pedal harmonium, a skill she inherited from his encouragement and love for music.


My mother told me that on the day I was born, he had just returned from the Gurdwara. Deliveries in those days were conducted at home and often involved long, painful hours. Without witnessing any of the suffering, he suddenly heard the joyous news that a healthy grandson had been born. He was overjoyed. He immediately went back to the Gurdwara to offer prayers, thanking God for blessing his beloved youngest daughter and sparing him the anxiety of her labor pains. That moment of pure gratitude speaks volumes about his tender heart beneath his disciplined exterior.


In his later years, he suffered from diabetes and complications following a cataract operation. The healing was slow, and eventually he lost much of his eyesight. Despite his physical decline, his spirit remained dignified. In 1946, he left for his heavenly abode also in Multan.


Trained under the British administration, he was fluent in English at a time when very few in society possessed that skill. In Mohalla Aghapura, Kaptana Street, in Multan, where nearly 250 families of our community lived together, he was regarded as a pillar of guidance and support. He helped many relatives secure positions in the army and uplifted numerous families through his influence and standing.


He was a man of character, discipline, devotion, and generosity. I pray that his noble soul rests in peace and that he continues to watch over all of us from the heavens.